Take the Attachment Styles Test for Better Relationships

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ARE YOU STUCK IN THE SAME DATING PATTERNS?

Do you keep attracting the wrong people? Maybe they're emotionally unavailable, inconsistent, or become too attached too quickly. Do your relationships seem to follow the same frustrating cycle, leaving you confused, disappointed, or questioning what keeps going wrong?

If so, your attachment style may be playing a bigger role than you realize.

Your attachment style plays a powerful role in who you're attracted to, how you show up in relationships, and the dating patterns you repeat. It can contribute to anxiety, avoidance, fear of rejection, difficulty trusting others, or attracting partners who reinforce unhealthy relationship dynamics

When you understand your attachment style and the subconscious patterns driving your relationship choices, you can stop repeating the same frustrating cycles and start making more intentional dating decisions. Instead of feeling stuck, you'll develop the emotional security needed to create healthier, more fulfilling connections

Through attachment-focused coaching, you'll learn how to navigate dating with greater confidence, attract more compatible partners, and build the foundation for the secure, lasting love you deserve.

What are attachment styles?

Childhood experiences help shape the attachment patterns we carry into adulthood. These subconscious patterns influence who we're attracted to, how we connect with others, and how we navigate dating and relationships.

Whether your attachment style is secure, anxious, avoidant, or fearful-avoidant, it can significantly influence your dating experiences, relationship choices, and ability to create lasting connections. The good news is that attachment patterns are not permanent. By understanding the subconscious beliefs and behaviors driving your relationships, you can develop greater emotional security, break unhealthy cycles, and create the healthy, fulfilling love you deserve.

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Do you resonate with any of these?

Do You Have an Anxious Attachment Style?

Do you find yourself overthinking texts, worrying about where you stand with someone, or needing frequent reassurance in dating? Do you fear rejection, become easily attached, or feel anxious when communication changes? You may have an anxious attachment style.

Do You Have a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style?

Do you want a close, loving relationship but find yourself pulling away when things become too serious? Do you struggle to trust others, fear getting hurt, or feel torn between wanting connection and protecting yourself? You may have a fearful-avoidant attachment style.

Do You Have an Avoidant Attachment Style?

Do you value your independence and feel uncomfortable when relationships become too emotionally intense? Do you pull away when someone gets too close, avoid vulnerability, or focus on reasons a relationship won't work? You may have an avoidant attachment style.

Your attachment style influences how you date, connect, trust, communicate, and experience intimacy. Through attachment-focused coaching, you'll uncover the subconscious patterns shaping your relationship choices, build greater emotional security, and develop the skills needed to create healthier, more meaningful connections.

Decode your attachment style

NAVIGATING DATING CAN FEEL FRUSTRATING AND CONFUSING

If you keep finding yourself in the same disappointing dating situations, you're not alone. Many singles struggle with recurring patterns—attracting emotionally unavailable partners, feeling anxious in relationships, or wondering why healthy connections seem so hard to find.

Often, these patterns are influenced by your attachment style and subconscious beliefs about love and relationships. By understanding what's driving your relationship choices, you can break free from unhealthy cycles, build greater emotional security, and create the healthy, lasting connection you deserve.

WHAT IF HEALTHY, SECURE LOVE IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU?

Imagine feeling confident and secure in your dating life, knowing how to recognize healthy relationships and choose partners who are truly compatible with you. By understanding and transforming the attachment patterns shaping your relationships, you can break free from unhealthy cycles, develop a more secure sense of self, and create deeper, more meaningful connections.

Want to know how?

Introducing

Secure in 90 Days™: Transform Your Attachment Style & Dating Life

This personalized 1:1 coaching program with Coach Roxy is designed to help you understand your attachment style, break unhealthy dating patterns, and develop a more secure approach to relationships.

Over 12 weeks, you'll uncover the subconscious beliefs influencing your dating life, learn practical tools for building emotional security, and gain a deeper understanding of relationship dynamics. Together, we'll identify the patterns keeping you stuck and create a personalized plan to help you attract healthier connections.

By the end of the program, you'll have the confidence, self-awareness, and relationship skills needed to navigate dating with clarity and build the foundation for lasting, secure love.

The program will help you to:

Develop deeper self-awareness by understanding your attachment style and the subconscious patterns shaping your dating life. Discover why you're attracted to certain types of partners, recognize unhealthy relationship dynamics, and uncover the emotional wounds influencing your experiences with love. Rather than simply changing behaviors on the surface, we'll work at the root level by identifying and transforming the subconscious beliefs, core wounds, and attachment patterns driving your relationship experiences.

become secure

You'll learn effective communication skills, understand your emotional needs, establish healthy boundaries, and recognize the dating patterns that may be holding you back. You'll also gain insight into your unique personality traits and relationship preferences, helping you better understand compatibility and make more intentional dating choices.

This deeper approach creates lasting change, allowing you to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships from the inside out.

Become the best version of yourself

WEEK 1 & 2

Gain insight into your attachment style through attachment coaching, exploring your core wounds, relationship triggers, and limiting beliefs. Understand your subconscious mind and the meaning you attach to painful situations, as well as how these elements influence your relationship patterns.

Week 3 & 4

WEEK 1 & 2

Explore your unique personality traits and gain a deeper understanding of your emotional and relationship needs. Uncover the subconscious beliefs and patterns that may be preventing you from having those needs met and learn how to receive your needs effectively.

Week 5 & 6

WEEK 1 & 2

Week 5 & 6

Learn how to communicate your needs with confidence, embrace vulnerability, and express your authentic self without fear of rejection. Identify emotional triggers and limiting beliefs that may be holding you back and develop healthier ways of connecting with others.

Week 7 & 8

Week 11 & 12

Week 5 & 6

Explore effective communication skills and strategies for conflict resolution while also learning to set healthy boundaries. Understand the connection between boundaries and wounds in relation to different attachment styles, and how these patterns are influenced by the subconscious mind.

Week 9 & 10

Week 11 & 12

Identify and replace unhealthy coping patterns with healthier, more effective strategies while learning to regulate your nervous system. Understand how different attachment styles respond to stress, conflict, and emotional triggers, and develop the tools to navigate challenging situations with greater self-awareness, emotional balance, and security.

Week 11 & 12

Explore how your attachment style influences your relationship shadow—the hidden fears, insecurities, and subconscious patterns that shape your reactions in dating and relationships. Identify the triggers that create emotional distress and uncover the deeper wounds they reveal.

The Secure in 90 Days™ Program Includes:

Experience 12 x 60-minute 1:1 coaching sessions on Zoom, focusing on attachment coaching to help you understand your attachment styles and relationship patterns. You'll receive workbooks and worksheets designed to guide you toward transformation, addressing your subconscious mind. Additionally, enjoy support between sessions via email or text, and take advantage of discounted rates for ongoing relationship coaching. For three months, you’ll have your own personal love decoder and relationship coach!

Benefits to coaching

Benefits of coaching while single

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

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Heal from past relationships, break free from unhealthy patterns, and move forward with confidence. Through attachment-focused coaching, you'll gain a deeper understanding of your relationship history, identify the lessons from past experiences, and develop the emotional security needed to create healthier connections.

You'll learn how to recognize red flags and green flags, identify attachment styles in potential partners, and understand how compatibility influences long-term relationship success. By gaining clarity on your attraction patterns, relationship needs, and dating preferences, you'll be able to make more intentional choices, avoid repeating the same mistakes, and confidently navigate each stage of the dating journey.

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

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Gain a deeper understanding of both your attachment style and your partner's, and learn how these patterns influence communication, conflict, intimacy, and emotional connection. Discover how each of you gives and receives love, identify recurring relationship dynamics, and gain clarity on the stage of the relationship you're currently navigating.

You'll learn to recognize emotional triggers—both yours and your partner's—and develop the skills to respond rather than react.

Through attachment-focused coaching, you'll improve

communication, navigate conflict more effectively, express your needs with confidence, and create a healthier, more secure relationship. Whether your goal is to strengthen your current relationship or gain clarity about its future, you'll have the tools to break unhealthy cycles and make empowered relationship decisions.

What Clients Had to Say

"One of the biggest things I gained from coaching with Roxy was learning how to set healthy boundaries without feeling guilty. I realized I had been putting everyone else's needs ahead of my own for years. Through our work together, I built more confidence, improved my self-worth, and stopped settling for less than I deserved.

"I always thought I was just an overthinker, but Roxy helped me realize that a lot of my anxiety was connected to my anxious attachment style. Learning how my subconscious patterns were affecting my reactions was incredibly helpful. I now feel much calmer when it comes to dating and spend a lot less time worrying about where I stand with someone."

"I wasn't sure what to expect from attachment coaching, and honestly, I was a little skeptical at first. But after just a few sessions, I started seeing patterns that I had never noticed before. Roxy has a way of asking questions that help you connect the dots for yourself. The insights I gained were incredibly valuable, and I still use what I learned every day."

"Looking back, I can see so many red flags that I completely missed. Roxy helped me understand why I was attracted to certain types of people and how my attachment style was affecting my dating life. I feel much more aware now and no longer waste time on relationships that aren't a good fit."

What is the Coaching Process?

Start with a free discovery call

Once you've filled out an application for our relationship coaching, I will provide you with a FREE consultation to discuss your relationship challenges, goals, and the impact of your attachment styles on your relationship patterns. We'll explore how your subconscious mind influences these dynamics.

Are we a good fit?

Having the right mindset is crucial to achieving success in attachment coaching, which is why I only accept clients I know I can assist and who are a good match for this transformative process. You may be a suitable candidate for relationship coaching if you:

Are highly motivated to make changes and are willing to step out of your comfort zone, especially regarding your attachment styles and relationship patterns.
Are dedicated to the process and prepared to do the inner work that taps into your subconscious mind.
Value personal growth and are willing to invest in yourself.
Are open to feedback and new learning methods that enhance your understanding of your attachment styles.

Moving Forward

If you are a good fit for our attachment coaching program and ready to proceed, we will meet once a week on a video call to start with a few discovery sessions focused on understanding your attachment styles and relationship patterns. Throughout the course, there will be homework and other resources available to you that explore the subconscious mind, and I will be accessible via email or text between each session to provide continuous support as you work towards achieving your goals.

Frequently Asked Questions

Please reach me at Decodedlove@yahoo.com if you cannot find an answer to your question.

Who is coaching for?

Coaching is for those who:

Want a fast, solution-oriented way towards growth and healing.
Want structure and guidance to achieve desired relationship goals.
Want to create change in a short amount of time.
Want tools and techniques to transform an insecure attachment style.
Want an alternative approach to talk therapy.

What are the differences between therapy and coaching?

Therapists can diagnose and treat people with mental illness, disorders, and trauma. Therapy is slower-paced and focuses on healing from the past.

Coaches do not diagnose or treat mental illness. Coaching is generally for people who are not in significant mental health distress or have already had some experience with therapy or counseling. Coaching is fast-paced, goal-focused, and solution-oriented. It focuses on the future and getting people where they want to be.

Q: What are the benefits of relationship coaching if I'm in therapy?

While therapy is an essential tool for healing, it can be challenging to revisit traumatic experiences from the past. Reopening old memories can be a painful and traumatic process. In contrast, coaching sessions do not require discussing past traumas.

These sessions aim to help you deal with your present challenges and pain points and move forward by focusing on the future. Unlike therapy, coaching focuses on the "how" rather than the "why." The goal is to identify root issues and find solutions rather than continuously discuss the problem. Coaching, while you're in therapy, can help you to achieve your relationship goals much faster.

What is your approach to relationship coaching?

My approach is based on Integrated Attachment Theory, NLP, and Personality Typology. I use different techniques to help people identify their attachment style and the core wounds, needs, beliefs, and emotional patterns specific to their style. My focus is on reprogramming limiting beliefs and maladaptive thinking that exist in the subconscious mind, which is responsible for 95% of our behaviors. In addition to attachment theory, I also use MBTI personality typing to help individuals discover their unique personality traits and how they impact their relationships.

Where & when do the sessions take place?

The sessions are scheduled to take place over Zoom in the Hawaii-Aleutian Time Zone (HST; UTC-10:00).

Testimonials

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I used to believe relationships weren't really my thing because I'd get uncomfortable when emotions got involved. I learned about my avoidant tendencies and am now working on self-awareness.

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One of the biggest breakthroughs I had was understanding that attraction isn't always a reliable indicator of compatibility. That insight alone changed everything. I now make decisions based on both attraction and compatibility, which has completely transformed my dating experience."

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"I used to take every rejection, ghosting situation, or failed date personally. It felt like proof that something was wrong with me. Working with Roxy helped me shift my perspective and build confidence from within instead of looking for validation from other people."

What will you choose?

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which path will you take?

There are two different options to getting the love you desire through relationship coaching that addresses your attachment styles and examines your relationship patterns, tapping into the power of your subconscious mind.

Option 1

Continue doing this on your own, hoping things will improve one day, but feel uncertain about your attachment styles.
Stay frustrated, not knowing how to get the love you desire through effective relationship coaching.
Keep looking for the right partner but continue attracting the wrong ones due to unrecognized relationship patterns.
Continue to search for relationship advice on YouTube or Instagram without seeing any significant improvement, as you try to decipher how general relationship advice applies to your unique situation.
Stay on this journey alone, struggling with dating without anyone who understands or supports you.

Option 2

Follow a scientifically proven system that has worked for hundreds of people navigating their attachment styles.
Understand the exact roadblocks you are facing in your specific situation regarding relationship patterns.
Learn how to create change at a subconscious level to achieve long-term, lasting effects in your relationships.
Get coached by someone who has transformed their own attachment style and can truly relate to your struggles.
Stop wasting time and energy trying to figure things out on your own. Invest in a relationship coaching program that will guide you and continuously provide the support you need.

Welcome!

Decode Your Attachment. Find Secure Love.

ARE YOU STUCK IN THE SAME DATING PATTERNS?

What are attachment styles?

Decoded Love

Do you resonate with any of these?

Do You Have a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style?

Do You Have an Avoidant Attachment Style?

Attachment Styles Test: Discover Your Attachment Style for Better Relationships

Take this quick 5-minute quiz!

Decode your attachment style

NAVIGATING DATING CAN FEEL FRUSTRATING AND CONFUSING

WHAT IF HEALTHY, SECURE LOVE IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU?

Want to know how?

Introducing

Secure in 90 Days™: Transform Your Attachment Style & Dating Life

The program will help you to:

become secure

Secure in 90 Days™: Program Overview

Become the best version of yourself

WEEK 1 & 2

WEEK 1 & 2

WEEK 1 & 2

Week 3 & 4

WEEK 1 & 2

WEEK 1 & 2

Week 5 & 6

WEEK 1 & 2

Week 5 & 6

Week 7 & 8

Week 11 & 12

Week 5 & 6

Week 9 & 10

Week 11 & 12

Week 11 & 12

Week 11 & 12

Week 11 & 12

Week 11 & 12

The Secure in 90 Days™ Program Includes:

Benefits to coaching

Benefits of coaching while single

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Benefits of coaching while in a relationship

Your Journey Towards Becoming Secure Starts Here!

testimonials

What Clients Had to Say

What is the Coaching Process?

Start with a free discovery call

Are we a good fit?

Moving Forward

Frequently Asked Questions

Testimonials

What will you choose?

which path will you take?

Option 1

Option 2

Ready to transform your life and relationships?

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